Stop the Blaming Game, Its Counterproductive

September 23rd, 2010 Leave a comment Go to comments

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Have you ever watched someone blame everyone else around them for the bad things that occur? It’s nearly as though they are generating excuses for why they can’t take responsibility for their personal life.

The really sad part about people who appear for other people to take the blame for their very own misfortunes is that they’re the varieties of individuals who also believe that others truly should be somehow liable for all of the excellent items too. As an example, have you ever known someone who believed that her partner was solely liable for generating her pleased? She felt it was somehow his job to make her life pleased just by being in it.

Yet, when the relationship failed, she blamed him for not attempting difficult enough, not liking her sufficient, not loving her enough.!!!. the excuses are endless. And they are all based on blaming an individual else. When you blame other people for the issues taking place to you now, you are handing over responsibility to someone else. In essence, you’re thinking you’re totally blameless and every thing that is occurring to you is by some means their fault.

Of course, this does not mean you truly ought to accept 100% from the blame onto your self either. That is fully counterproductive. It will take two individuals to argue. It will take two people to have a pleased, successful relationship. You are both equally responsible for the outcome of what’s heading on. Rather than blaming your partner for what’s going wrong in your romantic relationship, perhaps try focusing on some with the things you actually appreciate about him. Genuinely look at his good points. After all, you fell in love with him once, so those qualities are still in there somewhere. When he starts to notice that you are no longer criticizing him for not doing sufficient or not becoming very good adequate, he’ll cease acting so defensively. He might even let some of that loving aspect back out, which is the aspect of him you wanted to see all along.

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